Dear @jufrank I’d just like to say how sorry I am for your loss. Grief is never easy and I don’t think that an intellectual understanding can replace the need for a deep processing of a painful experience. For whatever it’s worth, I don’t believe suffering is ever consciously chosen, and neither beginnings nor endings need to be painful. But I would like to assure you that there is a perspective from where suffering is not possible anymore, and with all my heart, I wish you that. Don’t give up on looking for it!